Powerful indeed, and it got me thinking as if I'm honest, it's been a powerful kinda week where simple communication could have saved a whole lot of trouble and heartache for most of the people I know – me included.
'For millions of years mankind lived just like the animals, then something happened which unleashed the power of our imagination - We learned to talk'...
Only we don’t talk do we, instead we surmise, interpret or simply try and guess wtf is going on. Funnily enough, the answer is often just a simple question away… if only we asked it. Instead, we let silence prevail in the hope that things will work out for the best.
A best that never really happens in my experience.
‘There's a silence surrounding me, I can't seem to think straight’…
Of course, we need time to consider our thoughts and options but not saying anything – that’s worse. In fact, I believe that ‘Silence’ is a ‘Silent Killer’… You see, we need to hear, be heard and to be listened to, as it helps usnot only to feel valued but also make sense of our environment and the people that experience that environment with us.
‘I think I should speak now, I can't seem to speak now’…
Knowing what to say can be very hard. How to say it, even harder and knowing when to say it – can be downright impossible. How many times have you thought, ‘I wish I’d said something’ and not – simply to avoid confrontation? We’ve all had situations where we’ve swallowed our words rather than voiced our thoughts, opinions and challenges.
‘My words won't come out right, I feel like I'm drowning’…
To get the words to ‘come out right’, takes experience. Experience gained from getting the words out more wrong than right. It’s a tough learning curve and one that can make you feel like you are indeed drowning, especially if you find it hard to express your inner thoughts and concerns.
‘I'm feeling weak now, but I can't show my weakness’…
In the past, admitting weakness was a complete no-no, especially for us chaps. But in recent times it’s changed - I believe it takes great strength to admit weakness. And once out in the open, folk are only too glad to help, especially when you have complete weakness such as the weakness, I suffered with Guillain–Barré syndrome. Being that weak – leaves you with no option but to talk - my key message today.
You see, there’s always a few minutes of extra-time in any situation to conjure a fresh solution. A chance to find reverse gear, accept, compromise and vocalise a clear vision of where things are heading.
‘I sometimes wonder, where do we go from here’…
Where? Well, somewhere is all I can tell you. You might find out a few things about yourself on your journey. It could be a journey of discovery where you’ll find that money is immaterial to your mental wealth and that the spoken word can move mountains if the right questions are asked with the right tone. And, if you have finished the week in uncertainty or are in conflict or in downright rage – Stop. Reach out. And ‘talk’ and then ‘keep on talking’, as you’ll be in a better place and a better person for it.
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