Sunday 24 December 2023

Promised You A Miracle - Simple Minds


If you know me by now, you’ll know that in January I’ll complete thirty years of sobriety. It's from a New Year’s Resolution I made back in 1993 that helped me stabilise my out-of-control lifestyle and gave my future a sense of direction. I could never have imagined back then where my future life would have taken me, but I say with a huge amount of pride and satisfaction that I've enjoyed every single moment of my life's ups and downs - alcohol free.

Having stuck to my promise it’s easy to say how easy that's been upholding my pledge as researchers suggest that only 9% of folk that make resolutions complete them. In fact, research goes on to show that 23% of people quit their resolution by the end of the first week, and 43% quit by the end of January. 

 

Personally, I think many New Year’s Resolutions don't see the day out.

 

With that in mind, here are my NYR thoughts that might help you make some a promise you can keep for 2024 and possibly beyond.

 

You see, some NYRs are simply UNREALISTIC and are impossible from the outset to maintain, or the goal is set too far in the future - be real. Making a PLAN helps no end as without a road map to a brighter place, there is no direction - make it simple. Like any journey there might be delays or PROBLEMS that need to be negotiated, if you are easily distracted or influenced, defeat is an easy option - know your destination. Try to EXPERIMENT with new activities and people if you can - I went for a run and ditched the people that enabled me to misbehave. Surround yourself with the right people and lastly RECORD your progress and become accountable using wearable technology - or work with a Coach as they will encourage you and keep you focussed.

 

Use the acronym 'UPPER' to UP your game and become UPPER class in 2024. It could happen from making a simple self-promise, just as I did back in 1993 - one that I know I'll be keeping for the year ahead and for every year beyond that. 

 

So, with that in mind, what's your NYR and what difference could that make to your life for the New Year ahead as I'd love to know?


1.173 Marathons - 276 Ultras - 9 GWR - 16 MDS - 10,945 Days' Sober

Sunday 10 December 2023

The Voice - Ultravox

A Vineyard - A perfect place to go 'Sober'...

It's the 11th December tomorrow and my friend in Germany, Ronald Reinhardt will be celebrating nineteen years' of sobriety Here is his story, in his own words. 

Sometimes, all we need is a voice - my voice in his case, powerful and in strong low tones...here's the story.

My Second life…


Nineteen years ago today, I was running a 65km Ultramarathon from Offenburg to Baden-Baden in Germany and at the time I was 38 years old.

 

It was a week on from my last horrible, and as usual disastrous, booze session. A date I will never forget as my father died on 4th December 2018. It had been in the same pub where I’d started my drinking career more than 20 years earlier - the one where my father had ‘taught’ me how to drink when I was about fifteen. I’d been so drunk that night I lost my wallet containing 2000€ and slept rough in minus temperatures before being picked up in the morning by the Police.


Over the years, my drinking had been so heavy and frequent, that I wasn’t far away from being homeless. I was, and still am, a Professional gambler, living on my own without rules. It was a free and fun lifestyle but due to my heavy drinking, my financial situation was diminishing. So, to save money, I bought a motorhome, which was also provided a convenient place to collapse in when I was drunk but also transported me to running races.

Somehow, I was still able to run Marathons and Ultra-Marathons such as the 80km Swiss Alpine and even two Ironmans. I was a binge-drinker having heavy sessions which could last up to three weeks being drunk every day and then have long sober breaks in between of up to three months. At my lowest point, I drank in shady bars and with homeless people in the park.


A week after my last season, I still felt hungover, yet I decided to drive to Offenburg to run with a group of people for my sixth ultra of the year. I still don’t understand how I was able doing that over so many years despite drinking so heavily. Although it wasn’t a usual kind of event as most of the participants had problems with alcohol, drugs, relationships, or mental issues despite being able to run 65km and as a group running together.


I ran alongside a runner from Great Britain who jogged along at a very economical pace. Every 10kms there was a break for food and water, where we started chatting. His name was Rory Coleman a record-breaking runner, who’d had similar drinking issues to mine. We talked for the rest of the run sharing our life-stories.


When we arrived in Baden-Baden during the Christmas Market it was snowing. Most of the runners, including myself, had tears in their eyes (like I do now, writing this article). And in that moment, it became clear to me that I would never touch a drop of alcohol again. In a moment my fifteen years of fighting alcohol was over, and I’ve never looked back since. Up until then I’d always thought of quitting, but never had the mindset.


Since then, I’ve never had the urge to drink again.


That day changed my live completely. I disconnected from my drinking friends (including my drinking parents) and stopped squandering my money in bars. And although Rory and I have never met since in person, those few hours together changed my life. Today I received a congratulatory email marking nineteen years of sobriety. 


Rory sends me one every 11th of December that says, ‘Well Done Ron’.

I now live a life of awareness, meditation, spirituality and Buddhism. I enjoy family-time with my young daughter still in my motorhome with two cats, a laptop and a small e-piano for company. My mission is to save people who are struggling with alcohol and depression, so I can repay my debt to Rory - the one person that helped me, and that can help you if you are struggling like I was back in 2004.

1,170 Marathons - 276 Ultras - 16 MDS - 9 GWR - 10,931 Days' Sober  

Friday 8 December 2023

New Book Release - 'Reborn to Run'


On the day I celebrate 30 years' of sobriety, I'm releasing my second book 'Reborn to Run' on
 Amazon.

This is a sequel to my life-story ‘A Rebel and a Runner’ which finished on a knife-edge in 2015 with me looking one way whilst a huge juggernaut of a storm was fast approaching from the other direction. To say I’ve been surprised and tested mentally and physically more than ever before would be an understatement. This book continues where ‘Rebel’ left off and covers the next seven years of my life on from running the world’s toughest marathon, The Marathon des Sables (MdS) in April 2016 - to being paralysed a week later with a very rare auto-immune neurological disorder called ‘Guillain-BarrĂ© Syndrome’ (GBS). 


From being unable to even move let alone walk, to return in triumph to compete at the MdS in 2017, against the odds. This book documents that journey and the 'Coleman Mindset' it took to be 'Reborn to Run'. If you are currently going through a period of hardship or change, this book might just be the catalyst for your recovery.


1,170 Marathons - 276 Ultras - 16 MDS - 10,929 Days' Alcohol-Free