Deciding to give up alcohol is a significant and life-changing moment. It’s often sparked by health concerns, personal growth, or a desire for a sober lifestyle and it marks a turning point in one's journey towards wellness and self-discovery.
This moment may come from years of struggling with addiction or dependency. It might come following a rock-bottom experience - a moment of clarity when the consequences of continued alcohol abuse become too much of a problem to ignore. It could be a wake-up call from a concerned friend or family member, or a realisation that alcohol is interfering with their ability to lead a more ‘normal’ life. It happened to me back in 1994 and I call this my 'Point-Zero'.
Others may want to abstain recognising that their relationship with alcohol has become unhealthy or unsustainable. They may have noticed patterns of excessive drinking, experienced blackouts, or feel unable to control themselves after the first drink. Alternatively, they may simply feel that alcohol no longer aligns with their values, goals, or aspirations for the future.
Regardless of the circumstances, the moment to give up alcohol is often accompanied by a huge range of emotions. There may be feelings of fear and uncertainty about what lies ahead, as well as relief and liberation at the prospect of breaking free from booze treadmill. For many, there is a sense of empowerment in reclaiming control over their lives and making a conscious choice to prioritise their health and well-being.
In making the decision to give up alcohol, individuals may draw on a variety of sources of support and inspiration. This might include seeking guidance from healthcare professionals, attending support groups such as Alcoholics Anonymous, or finding solace in the stories of others who have successfully overcome their own struggles with alcohol. Additionally, some may find strength in their faith, spirituality, or personal convictions, using these as guiding principles on their journey toward sobriety. Going ‘Cold Turkey’ has a 20% success rate and reaching out dramatically raises the possibility of continued sobriety. Even then, some research lists the possibility of still being alcohol-free after 12 months at 29%.
The moment to give up alcohol often involves a period of reflection and self-examination, as individuals confront the underlying reasons for their drinking and explore healthier coping mechanisms. This process of introspection can be both challenging and transformative, requiring a willingness to confront difficult emotions and address unresolved issues. It may involve seeking therapy or counselling to address underlying trauma and mental health concerns. Avoiding other alcohol addicts and situations, that contribute to problematic drinking, is advised.
For many, the decision to give up alcohol is not made in isolation but involves the support and understanding of loved ones. Family members, friends, and partners can play a crucial role in providing encouragement, accountability, and reassurance during this time of transition. They may offer practical assistance, such as helping to remove alcohol from the home or providing a listening ear when cravings or temptations arise.
The journey toward sobriety is a bumpy road with many setbacks and obstacles along the way. Relapse is a common occurrence for many individuals in recovery, and it is important to approach it with compassion and understanding rather than judgment or shame. Each setback can be viewed as an opportunity for learning and growth, providing valuable insight into triggers, vulnerabilities, and areas for additional support.
As individuals progress on their journey toward sobriety, they may experience a profound transformation in their physical, emotional, and spiritual well-being. Freed from the burdens of alcohol dependency, they may discover a newfound sense of clarity, purpose, and vitality. They may find joy and fulfilment in activities and relationships that were previously overshadowed by alcohol, rediscovering hobbies, passions, and relationships that bring meaning to their lives.
It’s about embracing a new way of life - one that is guided by self-awareness, self-care, and self-compassion. It’s about cultivating resilience and inner strength, learning to navigate life's challenges without resorting to drink. It is about forging deeper connections with oneself and others, cultivating authentic relationships based on honesty, vulnerability, and mutual respect.
Ultimately, the moment to give up alcohol is a deeply personal and profound decision - one that holds the potential to transform not only individual lives but entire families, communities, and societies. It is a testament to the resilience of the human spirit and the capacity for growth and change. And it’s a reminder that, no matter how challenging life can be, the rewards of sobriety - health, happiness, and freedom - are well worth the effort.
All of which is great. But how does this work in reality? How did it work for me and how does it work and continue to work for those I coach?
Luckily for me I’m one of the 20% that are still living the ‘Sobriety Dream’ some thirty years on and for the folk that I coach, maybe we have that common goal. I find ‘Tribism’ fascinating, and the digital ‘Tribe’ I’ve created over the past few years provides a safe and supportive virtual world for clients to feel part of. It’s amazing just how much support can come from a simple ‘WhatsApp’ group full of amazing people all try hardest to be the best version of themselves.
Currently, nearly all of them abstain. Most have had issues and are many years into a new life. They’ve moved on. They’ve found new ways of coping with the ups and downs of life. They are now achieving much better and greater things being alcohol-free.
You can too. Reaching ‘Point-Zero’ takes a lifetime yet becoming ‘alcohol-free’ takes but a moment. And if you are wanting to take the first step on the journey of a lifetime, please contact me and I’ll show you a world of achievement and of clarity.
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