I often recognise the ‘lost sheep’ feeling when I meet new people. It’s that feeling of being stuck in a maze with no way out. Every avenue that’s been explored has led to the same dead end. And instead of tackling the issue head on, we avoid the problem – eventually reaching the point of helplessness and the feeling of being ‘lost’.
Apart from not knowing ‘who’ we are, we lose the reason ‘why’ we are. We lose our identity. We lose the love for our family, friends and a love of life itself.
There's a whole bunch of reasons why this happens. Women often lose their identity because over the years they’ve become this matriarchal figure where they're pushed into the very female role of motherhood – literally giving birth to the next generation and then looking after them to adulthood –thanklessly. Mums are often overwhelmed and feel isolated and rubbish - no wonder they lose the identity. Having lost their sense of identity, they lose their shine - the 'gloss' they once had, the spark of life. And when the children have grown up and leave home and their ‘job’ is done, and then it's a case of 'Well who am I – I have no identity, I feel totally lost.'
As for Men, well it’s all about building an empire and being the ‘Big Man’ that’s indoctrinated from birth. It’s all about being tough, not showing weakness and getting the job done at any cost. It’s like a ‘Personal self-worth’ that includes as a well-rewarded job, large house, happy family, and flash car, all signs of the success that will drive a career – and accompany life. So, reaching out when feeling overwhelmed when it gets hard or goes wrong has always been seen as being weak and for a ‘Real Man’s Man’ a complete ‘no-no’.
Well luckily, times are changing. The world’s a bit more forgiving and if you are feeling ‘lost’ there are plenty of resources to explore. Help is just a click or a call away. Having felt ‘lost’ I know how it feels and maybe that’s why I’m now helping so many people find themselves again.
You are not alone. There’s no reason to feel ‘lost’ anymore and if you are feeling ‘lost’ today – just click or call.
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