Accidents will Happen - Elvis Costello

Are we crazy in thinking that life crises only happen to other people? That in some way, or somehow, we’re exempt from bad things happening to us. Well, I’m sorry to say that no-one is exempt from acts of God, accidents, ill-health or simply just being in the wrong place at the wrong time. Shit happens! We just don’t expect it, or plan for it, to happen to us. 

You see the idea that bad things only happen to others is common place and called ‘optimism bias’, where people tend to believe they are less likely to experience negative events than others. This belief can be comforting, as it allows individuals to feel a sense of invulnerability and control over their lives. However, it's important to recognise that everyone is susceptible to bad things, and that misfortune is not always a reflection of personal flaws or bad choices.

Here's a more detailed look at why people might feel this way:- 

Cognitive Bias

Optimism bias is a well-documented cognitive bias where people overestimate their own chances of success and underestimate the likelihood of negative outcomes 

Selective Attention

When bad things happen to others, we may focus on the details of the situation, leading to the perception that it's a unique or isolated occurrence, while ignoring the fact that similar events can happen to anyone 

Personal Experiences

Past experiences, especially those where we have avoided or overcome adversity, can reinforce the belief that we are less vulnerable 

Wishful Thinking

Sometimes, the belief that bad things only happen to others is a way to maintain a sense of control and hope in a world where things can be unpredictable 

Empathy Gap

Experiencing someone else's misfortune may be difficult, and it can be easier to distance ourselves emotionally by believing that it couldn't possibly happen to us 

Schadenfreude

While not the main reason, schadenfreude (taking pleasure in another's misfortune) can also contribute to the perception that bad things only happen to others. 

Like I’ve said, It's important to remember that everyone is susceptible to suffering and that bad things can happen to anyone, regardless of their personal characteristics or choices. However, recognising the potential for adversity can help us be more prepared and resilient in the face of life's challenges.

Better put your tin hat on – it’s a jungle out there!

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