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Saturday, 22 November 2025

Run - The Pink Floyd

The long slow distance (LSD) run is the foundation of endurance training, and its importance has been recognised by athletes and coaches alike for decades. Though the name may sound simple, the physiological and psychological benefits it provides are astounding. For distance runners training for events ranging from the 5K to ultramarathons, LSD builds both durable and aerobic strength that no amount of speed work can replicate. Understanding why the long slow distance run matters begins with understanding how the body adapts to sustained, low-intensity effort and how those adaptations support all other components of an endurance training program.

At its core, endurance running depends on your aerobic metabolism. The aerobic system (the body’s ability to produce energy with the use of oxygen) is the engine behind long-term, sustainable performance. LSD runs specifically target and strengthen this system by keeping the runner in a low-to-moderate intensity zone for an extended period of time, often 60 minutes or more and sometimes for several hours depending on the person’s goal. Because the intensity remains low, the body can operate almost entirely aerobically, allowing for development of the aerobic base without incurring excessive fatigue or requiring long recovery periods between runs.

One of the most important physiological benefits of LSD running is the increased ability of muscles to use oxygen efficiently. During long, sustained efforts, the body adapts by increasing the number and density of mitochondria (the cell’s energy-producing structures). More mitochondria allow muscles to produce more energy over long periods without fatiguing. LSD runs also enhance capillary density, meaning more tiny blood vessels are available to deliver oxygen to working muscles and clear metabolic byproducts. These adaptations take time, consistency, and repeated low-intensity stimulus, which is exactly what the long slow distance run provides.

In addition to mitochondrial and capillary adaptations, LSD runs strengthen the heart itself. The extended duration of these runs encourages an increase in stroke volume (the amount of blood the heart can pump with each beat). A stronger heart pumps more efficiently, reducing the need for a high heart rate during all types of exercise, even during high-intensity sessions. This is why a well-developed aerobic base often allows runners to execute speed work with more control and better form. Simply put, the stronger and more efficient the cardiovascular system is, the more latitude a runner has to push harder during demanding sessions without tipping into excessive fatigue.

Another crucial benefit is the body’s improved ability to utilise fat as a fuel source. At lower intensities, the body relies more heavily on fat metabolism, which is nearly unlimited compared to carbohydrate stores. By regularly running at LSD pace, athletes train their bodies to become ‘fat-adapted’, meaning they can spare valuable glycogen for later stages of long races or for higher-intensity efforts. This is especially important for marathoners and ultrarunners, who must avoid depleting glycogen too early in the race. The long slow run essentially teaches the body to be more energy efficient across all paces.

Beyond physiological improvements, LSD runs also play a major role in building musculoskeletal durability. Running for extended periods strengthens connective tissues such as tendons, ligaments, and the fascia. These tissues adapt more slowly than muscles, which means gradual conditioning is essential. Consistent long slow distance runs provide the controlled stress necessary for tissues to become stronger and more resilient. This reduces injury risk and increases a runner’s ability to handle higher training volumes. Without this structural conditioning, harder workouts and faster runs would place too much strain on the body, eventually leading to injury.

Just as importantly, they build mental toughness and familiarity with time on feet - skills that are often overlooked but essential for endurance performance. The psychological experience of being out on a run for over 90 minutes teaches patience, pacing discipline, and comfort with sustained effort. These mental traits translate directly to race day. Runners learn to stay relaxed, manage slight discomfort, and remain focused during long events. They also develop strategies for nutrition, hydration, and maintaining form during the later stages of fatigue. No other workout simulates these race-specific demands as realistically as the long slow run.

Although speed workouts like intervals, tempo runs, and hill repeats are vital for improving race-specific performance metrics such as lactate threshold and running economy, these sessions depend on a strong aerobic base to be effective. Without the foundation provided by LSD running, high-intensity training becomes more taxing, less productive, and more likely to cause injury. The long slow distances essentially support the entire training hierarchy.

Another often overlooked aspect of LSD runs is the opportunity they provide for recovery and consistency. Because intensity remains low, these runs help maintain weekly mileage without overloading the neuromuscular system. They also promote blood flow and active recovery, helping the body heal from tougher sessions earlier in the week. Many runners find that LSD runs allow them to accumulate significant training volume, whilst still keeping the overall stress level manageable.

There is also a pacing benefit. LSD runs teach runners how to regulate their effort intuitively. Many athletes, especially newer runners, struggle with going out too fast in races. Spending long periods at a controlled pace helps develop a sense of ‘slow,’ ‘hard, and ‘too fast.’ This pacing awareness is a competitive skill, one that can save enormous amounts of energy during a race itself.

It’s worth noting that ‘slow’ is relative. The proper pace for an LSD run is typically conversational, roughly 70% of maximum heart rate or an effort where breathing remains steady and speech is easy. Many runners mistakenly push their long runs too hard, turning what should be an aerobic-building session into a taxing workout that delays recovery. True LSD pace should feel gentle, sustainable, and somewhat relaxed. Paradoxically, the discipline of running slowly often requires more restraint than pushing hard.

Ultimately, the long slow distance run is indispensable not because it is glamorous or exciting, but because it cultivates the core qualities of an endurance athlete. It’s the quiet, patient work that makes breakthrough performances possible. Whether a runner is aiming to complete their first ultra or shave minutes off a marathon personal best, incorporating regular LSD runs into their training plan lays the foundation for success.

1,230 Marathons, 270 Ultras, 18 MDS, 10 GWR, Infinite LSD...

 

Thursday, 3 April 2025

Begin Again - Knife Party


Yikes the 39th Marathon des Sables starts on Sunday and I'll be there on the start line for my 18th time! No doubt, it's going to be a great week and along the way there's a marathon and an ultra within the 250kms of the race to add to my running total.

It's a far cry from being here back in 1999, not knowing what to expect, and naively running in fancy dress just to make it harder - (what was I thinking!) but anyway, I survived and immediately fell in love with the desert.

Since then, the race has become etched into my DNA and I know the challenge that lies ahead of me. Sure all my kit is tried and tested, and I know how exactly how to pace myself, but the MDS is all about grit and determination. It's hardcore. It's tough. It's brutal. And at 63, I'm one of the older runners now so I'll have to use all my years of experience to get me and son Sam (31) through to the finish line next Saturday.

So, I have my game face on and I'm ready for whatever the desert is going to throw at us this year.

Let Battle commence...yee ha!

1,213 Marathons - 289 Ultras - 17 Marathon des Sables - One Life

Sunday, 16 March 2025

Seconds Out - Genesis


Embrace every moment

Life is fleeting. From the moment we are born, time starts moving forwards at an alarming rate, and no one knows how long they’ve got. Every second that passes is one we’ll never get back, and maximising our time on Earth is the most valuable pursuit we can ever undertake.

The brevity of life

Life is short. No matter how long we live, it will always feel that time has passed us by too quickly. People often regret not taking risks, not pursuing their passions, or not spending enough time with loved ones. We don’t have an infinite amount of time, and the realisation of our own mortality should push us to make the most of every day.

Many people procrastinate about their dreams and desires, thinking there will always be time in the future. However, the future isn’t guaranteed. We often hear of individuals who died unexpectedly, leaving behind unfulfilled ambitions and unspoken words. Recognising that life is uncertain should encourage us to seize every opportunity rather than waiting for a ‘perfect time’ that may never come.

The pursuit of happiness

Too often, people get caught up worrying about careers, financial success, or what other people will think. Whilst responsibility is important, it should not come at the expense of happiness. 

Living fully means doing things that bring joy and satisfaction. Whether it’s traveling to new places, learning new skills, or simply spending time with loved ones, happiness is often found in the experiences we create, rather than the material things we accumulate.

Creating meaningful relationships

One of the best aspects of life is the connections we make with other people. Strong relationships provide support, love, and shared experiences that enrich our existence. When we make the most of our lives, we prioritise relationships, nurture friendships, and make time for those who matter most.

Many people on their deathbeds express regret over not spending enough time with family or neglecting meaningful friendships. This highlights how crucial it is to invest in relationships whilst we have the chance.

Pursuing passions and dreams

Every one of us has unique talents, dreams, and passions. Unfortunately, many people suppress these aspirations due to fear, doubt, or external pressure. They settle for a safe and predictable life rather than chasing what truly excites them.

Pursuing our dreams, no matter how ambitious they may seem, adds depth and meaning to our lives. Whether it’s starting a business, traveling the world or running in a desert, making time for what we love is essential. Even if we face failure or setbacks, the pursuit itself is worthwhile. A life lived in pursuit of passion is far richer than one spent merely living life.

Overcoming fear and taking risks

Fear holds many people back from living fully. Fear of failure, rejection, or the unknown can prevent us from taking risks that could lead to fulfilment. However, the greatest achievements in life often come from stepping outside of our comfort zones.

Taking risks, whether big or small, allows us to learn, adapt, and discover our true potential. Every successful person has faced challenges, but they achieved greatness by refusing to let fear dictate their choices. Living fully means embracing uncertainty and viewing challenges as opportunities rather than obstacles. 

Appreciating the present moment

Many people either dwell on the past or anxiously anticipate the future, forgetting to appreciate the present. Whilst it’s important to learn from past experiences and plan for the future, life truly happens in the now. If we are always waiting for a better moment, we risk missing out on the beauty of today.

Making a positive impact

Living fully is not just about personal happiness - it also involves contributing to the world in a meaningful way. Whether through acts of kindness, helping others, or leaving a lasting legacy, making a positive impact gives our lives purpose.

Many of the most fulfilling lives are those dedicated to service -whether through volunteering, mentoring, or simply being there for others. When we positively affect the lives of those around us, we create ripples of goodness that extend far beyond our own existence.

Growth and self-improvement

Another important reason to make the most of life is the opportunity for personal growth. Each day presents a chance to learn, evolve, and become a better version of ourselves. Whether it’s acquiring new knowledge, improving our physical health, or developing emotional intelligence, growth is a continuous journey.

When we stop striving for improvement, life can become stagnant. But when we embrace challenges and commit to self-improvement, we remain engaged and motivated.

Avoiding regrets

One of the most painful emotions is regret. Many people look back on their lives wishing they had done things differently. To avoid such regrets, take action now.

Living fully means making decisions that align with our true desires rather than postponing happiness. If there’s something you’ve always wanted to do, find a way to do it. If you need to mend a relationship, take the first step. The more we embrace life, the fewer regrets we’ll have.

Finding balance

While making the most of life involves ambition and adventure, it also requires balance. True fulfilment comes from aligning work, relationships, personal interests, and well-being. Neglecting one area can lead to dissatisfaction, even if other aspects of life are thriving.

Think on

Life is a precious gift, and every day is an opportunity to make the most of it. It’s easy to get caught up in routine and forget that our time is limited. However, recognising the fleeting nature of life should inspire us to act with intention and enthusiasm.

And when the final day of life arrives, we should be able to look back with pride, knowing that we’ve truly lived, not just existed and made every second count. 

Let me help you live life and have fewer regrets contact me - rory@rorycoleman.co.uk .

1,212 Marathons - 288 Ultras - 17 Marathon des Sables - One Life Lived.

Wednesday, 26 February 2025

If I could turn back time - Cher

If I could turn back time…

I often wonder what I’d do if I could turn back time. Surely time-travel must be one of the most frequently explored things in human history and perhaps everyone has often dreamt of having their own personal TARDIS (Time And Relative Dimension In Space - thanks Dr Who). I mean who wouldn’t like to go ‘back to their future’? And like most people I’ve dreamt of undoing my mistakes, reclaiming lost opportunities, and rewriting my past.

 

However, the concept of reversing time could have negative as well as positive connotations. Sure, it offers the possibility of a fresh start, but it also raises questions about fate. If time-travel were possible, would altering the past truly lead to a better future, or could it make things worse?


Regret and nostalgia…


Whether it’s to correct a mistake, relive a moment, or change a decision, our past holds moments of both regret and nostalgia, however the thought of undoing painful experiences or taking advantage of a missed opportunity is most appealing.


Just imagine being able to prevent a personal disaster, choose a different career path, or save a loved one from a tragic accident – the possibilities are endless. The ability to go back and change such events could lead to a more fulfilling life, free of the burden of poor choices. On a larger scale, history itself could be rewritten preventing wars even global disasters – we’d already know the lottery numbers my oh my - but at what cost?


The cost of change…


There’s a thing called the ‘Butterfly effect’ - a term popularised in chaos theory, suggesting that even a small change can lead to significant and unpredictable effect in the future. And if we were to change just one single decision, the resulting chain reaction could alter relationships, events, and even entire lives

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In classic time travel films, characters often attempt to fix a mistake only to find that their actions create new problems. These cautionary tales serve as reminders that the past, while sometimes painful, plays a crucial role in shaping who we are today. Also, if you were to erase the past, it might erase some valuable life lessons.


Don’t erase, but learn…


Rather than wishing to turn back time, a more practical approach is to learn from your past experiences - whilst the past cannot be changed, it can serve as a guide for future decisions. Learning from mistakes allows people to make better choices moving forwards – we all know that.


Additionally, instead of dwelling on regrets, embracing the present and making the most of opportunities available right now can be a more productive way to live. I mean, the past has already happened, its history, but the future is still unwritten and probably better without the need to rewrite the past.


Thoughts of the future…


Although turning back time that would give us a second chance to control fate, it seems fraught with risk. And instead of focusing on what could have been, embracing the lessons of the past and striving to shape a better future appears to be the best way forwards. 

Life is a journey of learning, and an exciting future awaits. Amen.


1,211 Marathons - 288 Ultras - 17 MDS - 9 Guinness World Records - 1 Life

Friday, 14 February 2025

Maximum Joy - Frankie Goes to Hollywood


Living life to the full by embracing every moment...

As I head further on into my sixties, I’m finding myself cramming as much life as I can into every twenty-four-hour period. Sometimes twenty-four hours just isn’t enough! And, if my world was to end today or in the very near future, would I be able to say that I’d had good value for money and made the most of my time on this planet of ours, or would I be disappointed at the people and opportunities that have slipped through my fingers over the years.

I’m sure we all have regrets and if there was an opportunity to rewrite the record books, well we might but then we wouldn’t be where we are today I suppose…

You see, life is a fleeting gift, a limited time for us to experience, learn, grow, and leave an impact on the world around us. The phrase ‘living life to the full’ comes to mind, but what does it truly mean?

Is it about adventure and travel, or does it go deeper, touching on our relationships, personal growth, and inner peace? To live life to the full is to embrace each moment with purpose and gratitude. It requires us to step out of our comfort zones, cultivate meaningful relationships, and find joy in both the ordinary and the extraordinary - but how do we go about getting the best bang for our buck?

Embrace the present…

One of my key lessons is learning to stay in the present. In a world dominated by distraction, technology and social media, it’s easy to get caught up in the past or worry about the future. However, life truly only happens in the present. Mindfulness is the practice of fully engaging with the here and now and it involves appreciating small, seemingly insignificant experiences. It could just be the warmth of the sun on your face, the sound of laughter, or the taste of a delicious meal. It’s a moment in time to savour.

When we are present, we become more attuned to life’s beauty. We stop rushing our days and instead savour them. Living fully means not postponing happiness until some distant goal is achieved but finding it in the moments we have today. 

Leaving the comfort zones behind...

Comfort zones are safe, familiar, and predictable. While they provide a sense of security, they also limit excitement. But by embracing discomfort from time to time, taking risks, trying new things, and pushing personal boundaries, comfort zones can become dots in the rear-view mirror of life. It could be as simple as learning a new hobby, traveling to an unfamiliar destination, or speaking up in a situation where you might normally stay silent that helps you escape.

Progress happens when we step into the unknown. However the fear of failure can hold us back, but here failure itself isn’t the enemy, stagnation is. Every time we try something new, we learn more about ourselves and the world. Adventure, curiosity, and courage are fundamental to living a vibrant life.

Cultivating gratitude...

Gratitude is the cornerstone of a fulfilling life. When we focus on what we’d rather have than what we lack, we shift our mindset to one of abundance. Being able to recognize and appreciate the blessings in life, our relationships, health and opportunities helps us grow.

A daily practice of gratitude, whether through journaling or simply pausing to reflect, can transform our vision. When we are grateful, we become more content and less driven by external validation or material possessions. Gratitude grounds us and reminds us that life is rich with meaning.

Building meaningful relationships...

Relationships bring joy, support, and a sense of belonging. By investing in the people who matter to us the most - family, friends, and even the communities we are part of, create deep and authentic relationships.

In our fast-paced, digital world, it’s easy to mistake online interactions for genuine connection. While technology can bridge distances, it cannot replace face-to-face moments of laughter, shared experiences, and heartfelt conversations. 

Additionally, surrounding ourselves with positive individuals can inspire us to live more fully. The people we spend time with influence our mindset, so seeking relationships that uplift, challenge, and support us can be transformative.

Pursuing passions and purpose...

Passion brings energy and excitement into our daily lives. For some, it may be a creative pursuit like painting, writing, or music. For others, it might be a cause they deeply care about, such as environmental conservation or helping others.

When we find purpose, whether through our work, voluntary  efforts, or personal projects, we feel a sense of fulfilment and meaning. Purpose often involves serving others and a determination to leave a positive impact on the world.

It's important to note that passion and purpose are not always grand declarations. They can be found in simple acts such as listening to a friend or caring for a family member. What matters is the sense of alignment with our core values and the genuine joy that these activities bring.

Practicing self-compassion and resilience...

Life is not without challenges. Living fully does not mean avoiding difficulties but learning to navigate them with resilience and self-compassion. Hardships might be opportunities for growth if we approach them with the right mindset.

Self-compassion involves treating ourselves with the same kindness and understanding that we would offer a friend. It means acknowledging our imperfections without harsh self-criticism. Resilience, meanwhile, is the ability to adapt and bounce back from adversity. Developing these qualities helps us face life’s inevitable ups and downs with grace.

Moreover, when we embrace life’s challenges as part of the full human experience, we learn to appreciate the good moments even more. The contrasts between joy and sorrow, success and failure, make life richer and far more meaningful.

Finding joy in simplicity...

Modern society often equates a full life with external success. Mostly in wealth, fame, or possessions. However, genuine fulfilment often comes from within. By slowing down and savouring the simple pleasures, we reconnect with what truly matters. Minimalism, mindfulness, and a focus on experiences rather than possessions can help cultivate a far more satisfying lifestyle.

Giving back and contributing to others...

A life lived solely for oneself can feel hollow, I know. Contribution, on the other hand, brings a sense of purpose and connection. Acts of kindness, whether big or small, have a ripple effect, positively impacting others while enriching our own lives.

Volunteering, mentoring, or simply just being there for someone in need breeds a sense of community. The joy of giving often surpasses the joy of receiving and knowing that we’ve made a difference can be one of the most rewarding aspects of life.

Embracing change and letting go of fear...

Change is inevitable, yet many people resist it due to fear of the unknown. However, life is a continuous process of change and evolution. To live fully, we must learn to embrace change rather than fear it.

Letting go of fear involves recognising that uncertainty is part of the adventure of life. When we release our grip on the need for control, we open ourselves up to new possibilities. Change often brings growth, new perspectives, and unexpected opportunities.

Living authentically...

Living authentically means being true to ourselves, our values, dreams, and unique qualities. When we try to conform to societal expectations or live for others approval, we lose touch with who we are.

Authentic living involves self-awareness and the courage to follow our own path. It means honouring our passions, speaking our truth, and pursuing what truly matters to us. When we live authentically, we experience a deeper sense of fulfilment because we are aligned with our inner selves.

Thoughts…

Living life to the full is a dynamic and deeply personal journey. It’s about embracing the present, stepping outside of comfort zones, cultivating gratitude, and building meaningful relationships. It requires us to pursue passions, practice self-compassion, find joy in simplicity, and give back to others. Above all, it calls for authenticity and the willingness to embrace change with courage.

Life is a finite gift, and every day offers an opportunity to live more fully. By adopting these principles, we can create a life rich with experiences, connections, and purpose. 

And when you live life to the full, you’ll know the answer.

1,209 Marathons - 288 Ultras - 9 GWR - 17 MDS - 1 Life Fulfilled

Tuesday, 28 January 2025

Face Value - Phil Collins


I coach many CEOs, Directors and Business Leaders and you'd be surprised at their level of self-confidence and their perceived level of value, both to their businesses and to those around them - here are a few thoughts about self-value, and see if any apply to you.

Signs that you are undervaluing yourself…

Recognising the signs of self-undervaluation is vital part of feeling more confident, especially in confrontational situations. The signs often manifest in behaviours and thought patterns that, when left uncorrected, can make negatively impact your life.

Over-apologising

If you find yourself frequently apologising for things that are not your fault or are beyond your control, may be a sign of undervaluing yourself. This habit often stems from a fear of being a burden or causing inconvenience to others.

Difficulty accepting compliments

People who undervalue themselves often struggle to accept praise - brushing off compliments or attributing their success to luck rather than skills or effort.

Settling for less

Whether it’s staying in a toxic relationship, accepting a lower paid job, or tolerating poor treatment from others, settling for less than you deserve is a hallmark of self-undervaluation.

Fear of risk taking

Undervaluing yourself can lead to a paralysing fear of failure, making you hesitant to step outside your comfort zones. It often prevents people from pursuing their goals or taking advantage of new opportunities.

People-pleasing tendencies

People who undervalue themselves often prioritise the needs of others over those of their own, striving to gain validation through self-sacrifice. While kindness and generosity are admirable traits, constantly putting others first can leave you feeling drained and unappreciated.

Negative self-talk

Pervasive negative thoughts, such as ‘I’m not good enough or I don’t deserve this’ are clear indicators of self-undervaluation. Over time, this internal dialogue can become a self-fulfilling prophecy, reinforcing feelings of inadequacy.

The impact of undervaluing yourself

The effects of undervaluing yourself are far-reaching, touching nearly every aspect of your life. While the immediate consequences may seem minor, the long-term impact can be significant.

Mental health struggles

Chronic self-undervaluation can lead to feelings of anxiety, depression, and low self-esteem. The constant pressure to prove your worth or the persistent belief that you are not enough can take a toll on your mental well-being.

Stalled career growth

In professional settings, undervaluing yourself can prevent you from seeking raises, promotions, or better opportunities. This can lead to stagnation in your career and a persistent sense of dissatisfaction.

Strained relationships

When you undervalue yourself, you may attract individuals who take advantage of your insecurities, leading to unbalanced or toxic relationships. Additionally, the inability to set boundaries can result in resentment and emotional exhaustion.

Missed opportunities

Fear of failure or a lack of confidence often holds individuals back from pursuing their goals. Over time, this can result in a growing list of missed opportunities and unfulfilled dreams.

Erosion of self-worth

The more you undervalue yourself, the more it reinforces a cycle of self-doubt and insecurity. This can make it increasingly difficult to break free from negative thought patterns.

Breaking free from self-undervaluation

Overcoming the habit of undervaluing yourself requires intentional effort and self-reflection. While the process may be challenging, it is entirely possible with persistence and the right strategies.

Challenge negative thoughts

Begin by identifying and challenging the negative beliefs that contribute to self-undervaluation. Replace thoughts like ‘I’m not good enough’ with affirmations such as ’I’m capable’ and ‘I’m deserving’.

Celebrate your achievements

Take time to acknowledge and celebrate your accomplishments, no matter how small. Keeping a diary of your successes can help you recognise your value and build confidence over time.

Set healthy boundaries

Learn to say ‘no’ when necessary and prioritise your own needs. Setting boundaries is a crucial step in protecting your time, energy, and self-worth.

Surround yourself with supportive people

Seek out relationships with individuals who uplift and inspire you. Supportive friends and mentors can provide encouragement and help you see your value when you struggle to recognise it yourself.

Seek professional help

Therapy can be invaluable in addressing the root causes of self-undervaluation. A trained professional or coach can help you navigate past traumas, challenge negative thought patterns, and develop healthier coping mechanisms.

Practice self-compassion

Treat yourself with the same kindness and understanding that you would offer to a friend. Remember that everyone makes mistakes and faces challenges.

Take risks and embrace failure

Push yourself to step outside your comfort zones and take calculated risks. Embracing failure as a learning opportunity rather than a reflection of your worth can help you build resilience and confidence.

Invest in personal growth

Engage in activities that help you grow, whether it’s taking a course, pursuing a hobby, or practicing mindfulness. Personal growth leads to a sense of accomplishment and reinforces your intrinsic value.

The path to valuing yourself

Learning to value yourself is a journey, not a destination. It requires patience, self-awareness, and consistent effort. Along the way, you may encounter setbacks, but each step forward brings you closer to a healthier and more fulfilling life.

By addressing the root causes of self-undervaluation, challenging negative beliefs, and adopting positive habits, you can transform your self-perception. Remember, your worth is not determined by external validation or comparisons to others it’s inherent. 

Embracing this truth will empower you to live authentically, pursue your goals with confidence, and cultivate meaningful relationships that will reflect your true value.

1,207 Marathons - 286 Ultras - 17 MDS - 9 GWR - Never Undervalued

Friday, 24 January 2025

Anger in Harmony - Wishbone Ash

 The Power of being Calm when Angry… 

In life, we are often confronted with situations that test our patience and emotional control. From minor inconveniences like someone cutting us up in traffic to significant conflicts in personal or professional relationships. The temptation to react angrily can be overwhelming. However, cultivating a sense of calm in the face of provocation is a far more effective and fulfilling response. Being calm instead of angry not only improves our emotional health but also enhances our relationships, decision-making abilities, and makes us feel better.

 

Let’s explore the importance being calm when angry, it’s psychological and physiological effects, and the practical strategies for choosing to be calm in challenging moments.

 

Understanding anger and calmness

 

Anger is a natural human emotion that arises when we feel wronged, threatened, or frustrated. It’s a defence mechanism, that alerts us to perceived injustice and motivates action to address the issue. While anger can be constructive in certain situations, such as advocating for social change or standing up for oneself, it often becomes destructive when expressed impulsively, without control. Uncontrolled, anger can harm relationships, fuel misunderstandings, and escalate conflict.

 

Calmness, on the other hand, is a state of mental and emotional balance. It allows people to respond to challenges thoughtfully rather than reactively. Being calm doesn’t mean suppressing emotions or avoiding problems; instead, it involves maintaining control over one’s responses and addressing issues with clarity and composure. Calmness breeds rational thinking, empathy, and resilience, making it a very powerful antidote to anger.

 

The psychological effects of anger

 

When anger takes hold, it activates the ‘fight or flight’ response, a survival mechanism hardwired into our DNA. This response triggers a cascade of physiological changes, including increased heart rate, elevated blood pressure, and the release of stress hormones such as adrenaline and cortisol. Whilst this reaction can be useful in dangerous situations, chronic or frequent anger can harm both mental and physical health.

 

Psychologically, anger clouds judgment and narrows our focus, making it difficult to see the bigger picture. It can distort perceptions, causing people to misinterpret others’ intentions or exaggerate the significance of a problem. Over time, frequent bouts of anger can lead to feelings of bitterness, resentment, and helplessness. 

 

The benefits of calmness

 

Choosing calmness over anger offers numerous benefits, both immediate and long-term. Calmness enhances emotional intelligence, enabling people to better understand their own feelings and those of others. This heightened awareness breeds empathy and strengthens relationships by reducing misunderstandings and encouraging open communication.

 

From a physiological perspective, calmness counteracts the stress response associated with anger. By lowering heart rate and cortisol levels, calmness promotes relaxation and reduces the risk of stress-related health issues such as hypertension, heart disease, and anxiety disorders. Additionally, staying calm improves cognitive function by allowing the brain to process information more effectively, leading to better problem-solving and decision-making.

 

On a wider level, calmness can create a ripple effect, positively influencing those around us. When we respond to adversity with composure, we set an example for others and contribute to a more harmonious environment. In this way, calmness becomes not only a personal virtue but also a catalyst for collective peace.

 

Practical strategies for choosing calmness

 

Although remaining calm in difficult situations is challenging, it’s a skill that can be developed with practice. Here are several strategies to help you cultivate calmness and manage anger more effectively:

 

Pause and breathe

 

When anger begins to rise, pausing and focusing on your breath can help you regain control. Deep breathing activates the parasympathetic nervous system, which counteracts the stress response and promotes relaxation. Even taking a few slow, deep breaths can create a sense of calm and prevent impulsive reactions.

 

Practice mindfulness

 

Mindfulness involves staying present in the moment and observing your thoughts and emotions without judgment. By cultivating mindfulness, you can become more aware of your anger triggers and develop your ability to respond thoughtfully rather than reactively. Mindfulness practices such as meditation, yoga, or simply observing your surroundings can help build this skill over time.

 

Reframe the situation

 

Often, anger arises from the way we interpret events rather than the events themselves. By reframing the situation, you can shift your perspective and reduce the intensity of your emotional reaction. For example, instead of assuming someone is being rude intentionally, consider the possibility that they may be having a bad day or dealing with their own challenges.

 

Focus on solutions

 

Rather than dwelling on what went wrong or who is to blame, channel your energy into finding a constructive solution. This proactive approach not only resolves the issue more effectively but also empowers you to take control of the situation without letting anger dictate your actions.

 

Engage in physical activity

 

Physical activity is a powerful outlet for releasing pent-up anger and tension. Exercise helps reduce stress hormones, improve mood, and restore a sense of calm. Whether it’s a brisk walk, a workout, a run or a session of stretching, physical movement can help you regain emotional balance.

 

Communicate assertively

 

Calmness does not mean suppressing your feelings or avoiding difficult conversations. Instead, aim to express your concerns assertively and respectfully. Use ‘I’ statements to convey your feelings without placing blame, such as, ‘I feel frustrated when deadlines are missed,’ rather than, ‘You never meet deadlines.’

 

Develop emotional awareness

 

Understanding the root causes of your anger can help you address underlying issues and prevent future outbursts. Reflect on patterns in your emotional responses and consider what unmet needs or unresolved conflicts may be contributing to your feelings.

 

Practice gratitude

 

Focusing on the positive aspects of your life can help shift your mindset away from anger and toward appreciation. Regularly practicing gratitude, whether through blogging, sharing your thoughts with others, or simply reflecting on what you’re thankful for, can cultivate a sense of peace and contentment.

 

Seek support

 

If anger becomes overwhelming or difficult to manage, seeking support from a trusted friend, family member, or Coach can make a significant difference. Talking about your feelings and receiving guidance from others can help you gain perspective and develop healthier coping strategies.

 

And finally…

 

Choosing calmness over anger is not always easy, but it’s a choice that leads to greater peace, resilience, and fulfilment. By understanding the impacts of anger, embracing the benefits of calmness, and practicing strategies to stay composed, we can navigate life’s challenges with grace and clarity. Calmness empowers us to respond thoughtfully, build stronger relationships, and contribute to a more harmonious world. Ultimately, it is not the absence of challenges that defines us, but how we choose to face them. In choosing calmness, we choose a path of wisdom, compassion, and enduring strength. 


Amen.

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